Confronting the self requires courage but leads to empowerment and freedom. It is the gateway to a more conscious, authentic life. Photo Credit: AdobeStock.

Confrontation, Contemplation, and Contentment:

A Journey to Inner Peace

Vazken Kalayjian
7 min readDec 3, 2024

The journey to inner peace is often marked by three essential stages: confrontation, contemplation, and contentment. Each serves as a stepping stone toward self-realization and spiritual fulfillment. These stages are not isolated but interwoven, shaping our path to deeper understanding, healing, and inner harmony.

Confrontation is the toughest step toward inner peace, requiring facing our fears and insecurities. As Carl Jung said, ‘One does not become enlightened by imagining light, but by making the darkness conscious.’ The artwork was created by the author using Freepik AI.

Confrontation: Facing Our Inner Shadows

Confrontation is the first and often the most challenging step toward inner peace. It requires us to look inward and face our fears, insecurities, and unresolved aspects of our psyche. As Carl Jung explained, “One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.” Confronting this darkness is critical for authentic personal growth.

This process aligns closely with Jung’s idea of the “shadow self” — the hidden, often repressed part of our personality that we deny or fail to acknowledge. By facing these aspects, we address personal fears and reclaim the energy in maintaining those inner barriers. Bringing the shadow self into light fosters empowerment as we learn that our fears, doubts, and weaknesses do not define us.

Gurdjieff emphasized self-observation as the key to breaking automatic reactions and transforming negative thoughts. Photo Credit: AdobeStock.

As Gurdjieff, a spiritual teacher of the Fourth Way, emphasized, self-observation is vital in this confrontation. He encouraged individuals to “remember themselves,” breaking away from their automatic, mechanical reactions to Life. This self-awareness lets us observe the thoughts and behaviors shaping our inner lives. We become aware of our habitual negative self-talk and destructive imagination, and in doing so, we can transform them.

“Confronting the self requires courage but leads to empowerment and freedom. It is the gateway to a more conscious, authentic life.”

Observe your thoughts and emotions objectively, becoming a witness rather than being influenced and identified by them. Photo Credit: AdobeStock.

Contemplation: The Power of Perspective

After confronting our inner demons, we enter a phase of contemplation. Here, we take a step back and begin to observe ourselves and our experiences from a more objective standpoint. In this phase, we act as witnesses to our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, separating ourselves from their influence.

Peace comes from within. True contentment arises when we observe without judgment. Photo Credit: AdobeStock.

Zen Buddhism, mainly through mindfulness practice, teaches us how to achieve this detached observation. As Thich Nhat Hanh, a renowned Zen master, stated, “Feelings come and go like clouds in a windy sky. Conscious breathing is my anchor.” By observing our inner world without judgment, we recognize the transitory nature of thoughts and feelings, allowing us to engage with Life more clearly and peacefully.

Contemplation is an active practice that helps us observe thoughts without being defined by them. Photo credit: AdobeStock.

Contemplation is not merely a passive observation; it’s an active form of gaining perspective. This mindfulness practice helps us realize that our fleeting thoughts or emotions do not define us. We can become the “silent witness” who watches but is not controlled by the waves of inner experience.

In the context of Gurdjieff’s teachings, contemplation involves recognizing the deeper forces at work within us. The more we practice self-observation without judgment, the clearer we become about the motivations, fears, and subconscious patterns that influence our lives. We develop the capacity to discern what truly matters and respond from a place of wisdom rather than reaction.

Gurdjieff teaches that self-observation reveals the deeper forces shaping our lives, helping us respond with wisdom. Photo by the author.

“Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without,” –Buddha

Contentment: The Art of Presence and Acceptance

Contentment is the final stage in this journey, at which we fully embrace Life and find peace in the present moment. This phase is not about passively accepting Life as it is but about actively engaging with the world from a place of inner calm and centeredness.

True contentment comes from flowing with life’s rhythms and letting go of the need for control. Photo Credit: AdobeStock.

“Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without,” said the Buddha. True contentment arises when we let go of our need to control every aspect of our lives and instead flow with the natural rhythms of existence. Within is where we find balance — accepting Life’s joys and sorrows without resistance.

In many spiritual traditions, contentment is seen as a state of harmony with the universe. In nature-based shamanism, contentment flows effortlessly with Life’s rhythms. Just as a river moves around obstacles without resistance, we, too, can learn to navigate Life’s challenges with grace and acceptance.

Gratitude transforms our perspective, allowing us to appreciate the present and experience abundance. Photo Credit: AdobeStock.

This phase of the journey is often enriched by gratitude. Shifting our focus from what we lack to what we have transforms our perspective and opens the door to experiencing abundance in everyday moments. Contentment allows us to appreciate the present rather than being driven by an endless quest for future happiness or external validation.

Integrating the Journey

The journey through confrontation, contemplation, and contentment is not linear. It is a cyclical process that deepens as we face new challenges and return to earlier stages with renewed insight. Each time we confront a new shadow, we are called to contemplate its meaning, and eventually, we arrive once again at contentment.

Like a river moving around obstacles, we can navigate life’s challenges with grace and acceptance. Seated Buddha at Dai Bosatsu Monastery contemplating by Beecher Lake. Dai Bosatsu Zendo Kongo-ji, or International Dai Bosatsu Zendo Kongo-ji, is a Rinzai Zen monastery and retreat center located in the Catskill Mountains of upstate New York. Dai Bosatsu Zendo Kongo-ji is part of the Zen Studies Society, founded in 1956 to support the work of D.T. Suzuki. Photo by the author.

It is #InnerPeace #MindfulnessJourney #SpiritualGrowth #SelfAwareness #GratitudeAttitude to recognize that true inner peace comes not from eliminating Life’s difficulties but from learning to navigate them with a sense of calm and purpose. As Joan Pancoe said, “Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your soul. Consciousness will grow.” With each challenge, we grow stronger, more resilient, and more attuned to our true nature.

In moments of difficulty, it is helpful to remember that these stages are always available to us. The tools of confrontation, contemplation, and contentment provide a path back to balance and peace, no matter the chaos of the external world. By engaging with Life holistically, we can transform our inner experience and how we connect with others, fostering deeper compassion and understanding.

“The journey toward inner peace is one of returning to our true selves. It’s about accepting the whole of our experience, the light and the shadows, with grace and understanding.”

Jizo, protector of children’s souls, travelers, and those who passed before completing their pilgrimage. This bodhisattva, known as Kshitigarbha in Sanskrit, helps beings in the realms of the dead, often depicted with a staff and a gem to illuminate the darkness. Jizo Bodhisattva at Dai Bosatsu Monastery. Photo by the author.

Conclusion

The journey toward inner peace — through confrontation, contemplation, and contentment — offers a transformative approach to navigating the complexities of Life. By confronting our inner shadows, cultivating mindful self-awareness, and embracing the present, we uncover a deeper sense of peace, purpose, and fulfillment.

This holistic approach is vital not only for our personal well-being but also for how we relate to the world around us. Inner peace is not a static endpoint but an ongoing practice of self-realization and presence. It involves learning to live authentically and mindfully, regardless of external circumstances.

By embracing this journey, we enrich our lives and contribute to a shared sense of humanity, recognizing that we are all on this path together.

Japanese Daibutsu of Kamakura during a rare snowfall. Kōtoku-in, a Buddhist temple of the Jōdo-shū sect in Kamakura, Kanagawa Prefecture, is also known as Shōjōsen-ji, with the mountain name Taiizan. Photo by crossfire_dave on Flickr.

Big Idea:

The core message of this paper is that inner peace is a cyclical process involving three key stages: confrontation, contemplation, and contentment. These stages help individuals face their inner challenges, gain clarity through reflection, and ultimately live with greater presence and acceptance.

The most important takeaway is that inner peace is not a final destination but an ongoing practice. We can navigate Life’s complexities with resilience by confronting fears and insecurities, contemplating our thoughts and actions with objective awareness, and cultivating contentment through acceptance and gratitude. This holistic approach fosters personal growth and deepens our connection to others and the world around us.

Inner peace is a cyclical journey through confrontation, contemplation, and contentment — ongoing stages of growth, clarity, and acceptance. Illustration: By the author using Freepik AI.

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Vazken Kalayjian
Vazken Kalayjian

Written by Vazken Kalayjian

Visionary entrepreneur, futurist, and meditation teacher exploring creativity, tech, & spirituality. Uncovering truths, driving innovation. To awaken humanity!

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